Dating a single mom is something that most guys shy away from. The truth is most single moms carry baggage, whether it is a previously failed relationship or accidentally finding herself pregnant after a “fling”.

Those women that have learned from their previous experiences have solid defense mechanisms that kick in when a guy shows interest. The fact that she is a mother should be a good indication that she has experience with men and has probably learned about a guys motives while dating. Her experience with men has probably taught her the games that men typically play and because of that she will be guarded at the advances of any guy.

Those single moms who have not learned quickly fall victim in the dating scene.

Here’s the truth of the situation. Guys do not want to date single moms, they want to conquer them as a hunter would conquer its prey. As horrible as this sounds, it is reality. As single moms, it is only natural for them to enjoy the attention of a man. Most single women have the lives centered around caring for their child. The bulk of her compassion and love is reserved for her child. Her life is generally more serious and she has less time for leisure activities. When a guy shows her some attention, it is new, exciting and outside her routine life that revolves around her child.

Unscrupulous men recognize this fact and manipulate the situation to gain a single moms’ trust. A guys questions may appear legitimate, as if he’s getting to know the single mom, but he is in fact, gathering “intel” that he can use to his advantage.

Without having learned the true motives of a guy, a single mom who has not yet learned how to deal with this type of scenario is quick to reveal intimate details of her life and her expectations in a relationship. If she gives the impression of being desperate or shows any weakness, gus will use this to create an “too good to be true” scenario that these women crave.

However, the single mom that has learned what to watch out for will be upfront and tell you exactly what she expects. She will establish the playing field and will confidently communicate her relationship needs. She will no longer settle or allow herself to be manipulated. This often has guys running for cover and describing these single moms as “bitches”.

The truth is often quite different. Men who draw conclusions about these single moms are just upset because they realize they have no opportunity to prey on these women.

The single mother welcomes honesty from a guy. She respects this and will see honesty as a quality that may be rewarded further in the relationship should one develop.

The rewards of dating a single mom can be considerable. If the relationship develops into something long lasting, it will be built on honesty, respect and solid communication. It will be filled with passion and will have some of the bigggest rewards possible, the love and dedication of both the single mom and her child.